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Ending a relationship

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In the last 3 years ive lost my mother to cancer, I’ve had breast cancer, a frozen shoulder, chronic lymphodema, my youngest child has ADHD and oppositional defiance Disorder and amongst this my so called husband and have not had a sexual relationship in 7 years. He says I am angry and bitter and that’s why he’s no longer attracted to me but maybe I am) but on top of everything that has happened as well as suffering from severe depression I feel quite disliked and rejected as a woman and feel like he treats me like one of the children. I’m so lost between the cancer and the sexual rejection that I don’t know what to think. Part of me feels like I deserve an adulr relationship and part of me thinks I should end it all as clearly I’m a horrible person.

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Hi Kate40 welcome to the forums and making such a brave first post.It sounds you are going through a lot.I can relate to a lot of it,I have lost my mum in the last few years and I am battling health problems and have a son with ADHD as well as he has autism and have a fighter with Asperger's and selective mutism and other health problems.I can't have a sex life due to medical reasons.I have depression with anxiety.I just want you to know you are not alone with what you are going through and it will improve over time.You are definately not a horrible person just someone struggling at the moment .I am sorry about your husband not wanting you.Have you talked to your doctor about depression and about everything going on with your husband.I tell my doctor everything though it was ok hard at first.You have been through so much and you are worth fighting for yourself.
Take care,

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It sounds like you've been through a lot and really don't need more on your plate right now, as far as your relationship, I think that's a decision you need to make on your own. Think about what kind of future you want for yourself and who that includes. Do what you think will make you happy in the long term. It's hard with kids but you also need to think about yourself.