Suicidal thoughts and self-harm

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Life gets pretty hard sometimes and many people in this online community have had times where they have thought about hurting themselves or ending their life. This can be a stressful and at times overwhelming experience, and this section is here to help members who have had these experiences. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for help and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. Making comments that let us know that you are having thoughts, but are safe, helps us to know that your conversation can continue without interruption, and that we do not need to put any further follow up for you in place. This section will not be for everyone.It shows posts from people who are distressed, offers public replies to these posts, and encourages people to come back and share how they got past that difficult point in time - what worked, what didn’t and how they now approach these difficult thoughts. It is important to think about what you want from the forums, what information you need and what threads will be helpful to your situation, rather than reading everything that is posted. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of our forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. This section remains a discussion forum focused on helping each other through the dark times, it is not a crisis support service. Any posts that do not abide by the community rules will not be published. Unlike other areas of the forum, threads in this section will be closed after a period of one month of inactivity. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these forums. Please call Suicide Call Back 1300 659 467, Lifeline 13 11 14 or contact emergency services on 000.

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Can't breathe

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I have been such a horrible, destructive force to people who never deserved it. A physical overwhelming lingering sea sickness has enveloped me. I can't breathe, can't think or function The only thing more terrifying to living and being stuck inside the loop is not having the one person I love and feel so painfully attached to..because I push & break and destroy all that is good and so damn important.. that they will walk away & not want anything to do with me, to not have them near at all. Even though that is probably exactly what I deserve. Panic, anxiety and total, permanent dread become part of me constant self & state of being. I feel overwhelmed and disorientated. I loathe myself for creating doubt, pain and stress , for creating chaos and drama. I don't want to be this person, I don't want to poison the world and the lives around me because I'm such a massive mess up. Just want to fall into a dark hole and never get back up. The world & those in my orbit would be far better off.

Please help

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Im young i lied im entering highschool aus and i sh and have sucidal thoughts i cant escale its a whole and its consuming me left right and centre help im only ten plus two i have attempted suicide before and i HATE IT HERE IM NOT OKAY AND NOBODY CAN... View more

I'm struggling with a breakup

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Hi I'm struggling pretty bad with a recent break up, the break up is all my fault and I couldve done better or changed but i didn't. And now I'm having suicidal thoughts. I know some people may think "oh it's just a break up". But it's seriously is physically hurting me and I'm starting to regret a lot of things. I don't know how to stop thinking about the what ifs and what I could have done differently. I have never gone through this sort of break up pain before.

I need help

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My best friend took his life in 2019 just before covid, its been years and I still want to do something stupid. The only thing stopping me is the feeling I still feel now, I want to die but I don't want anyone to feel like this. I've been to hospital multiple times when I was a kid for these feelings, but now its a lot worse because someone who I done everything with is gone. We grew up in state care and got addicted to drugs as kids. I have more questions, he was the last person I'd expect to harm himself. I just want closure and I don't think ill ever get that, I don't think I can live without answers. I got rid of everything sharp in my house, I'm fkn 27 years old living alone with no knifes in the house. Got rid of my nailgun because I had racing thoughts, I don't know if I've done enough to stop anything. Nothing gives my joy in life like I use to like playing drums, I don't know if its the drugs that ruined my enjoyment in general life activities or if its life in general. I want to die, but I can't do it to my family now I know what it feels like. I don't take drugs anymore but drinking is becoming a problem, that's when I want to do stupid things. I'm fkn lost and I can't talk to anyone because they'll freak out, I don't want anyone to worry because it feels bad to worry. I know at some point, I wont be able to control myself and do something to myself I can't take back. I have nothing to offer in life, I'm not an idiot and I know others see that in me. The thing is I don't care, I just don't want anyone else to hurt. I've seen too much shit in state care growning up. I'm overwhelmed by life, I don't know what to do. I'm on an anti-depressant but its fkn useless, it doesn't help anymore. I think my depression is beyond medication, I need sedation so I can't think. On top of that I was diagnosed with COPD at 24 from smoking. Everything is adding up to an inevitable ending that I can't handle, its almost 12am and here I am spilling my problems because I don't know what to do anymore. I just want peace but I find the opposite, I can't be sober and that's a problem. My best friend may still be alive if he never ended up in care or on drugs, I feel like I'm heading down the same road. I hate life, but at the same time I love my family and want to live for them. Its just hard to cope with the hand I'm dealt

Struggling with suicidal ideation

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Heyya everyone. So lately really struggling with suicidal ideation and thoughts. I have a plan and can get rid of it but has become a security blanket for me. I know I can be better. I have been better. my strategies aren't working as well as I hoped they would. My meds aren't working as well as they should be but keeping up with them. Usually I stop taking them but a part of me is fighting these thoughts. Idk what to do. I have texted my psychiatrist nurse this morning but probably won't hear from her for another 2 days

Depression kicking my butt... can't get joy from anything

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I'm over 30 and just don't have any motivation anymore for anything. Nothing excited me about the future.I have a partner who I love very much but is also just stressing about work all the time and going through his own problems.He's strong though and not a very easily emotional person, so I think maybe he's better off finding someone else.I just can't see myself wanting to be around anybody anymore, only my cats. Animals have always been there for me: my parents tried but I was too "different" they couldn't connect with me. Also at school I was bullied and never had any friends. I mean people always still invite me to parties but never anything personal really. I tried making a friend who I though we got along perfectly but then she said she was getting busy with work and I never heard from her again. I guess people just get bored of me and I don't hate them for it , I have just accepted they will be happier with people in similar personalities etc... I wanted to do a course in vet nursing, but even in the past it was a struggle as I was studying "at my own pace" but still had to hand in assignments on a due date. Supervising nurses could never keep to it as I was only a volunteer, why put in effort to train me ? Corona hit and I had to take a break anyways... Nothing I want out of life, even with hard work is achievable. People are all busy with their own problems and have no idea how to help me. I made an appointment with my psychologist for next week , I had the luxury of taking some days off, which is unfair compared to even my partner who has to work to the bone for his job and things . I guess I'm hoping to find something to want me to carry on, but nothing in this world makes it worth the hard work and stress anymore, I just want to sleep, at least my dreams are nicer most of the time.

Feel that things are getting worse

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Hello everyone. It has been a while since I used these forums, I guess I stopped knowing what to say but have found myself back in a mindset where I think making a thread and visiting others is what might help me right now.I feel safe right now, though maybe I was not over Christmas. I live with my family who contribute greatly to depression and other kinds of thoughts. I have been really struggling to eat as well, I guess with how explicit an issue that is right now I am realising that due to health issues since I was born I have maybe never had a healthy relationship with food? I am managing to eat at least once a day, but I worry about it and did go to a care centre at one point because I knew I would not eat at all otherwise.I think I realised where my thinking about self-harm comes from, not sure if that is anything of value but maybe that knowledge will help me find something else to do instead as it seems to be a way of coping with my other pain, though not a healthy one. It does seem to be a different place than suicidal thinking too, which is more a place of hopelessness. Not sure if it is appropriate to go into details of whys so I guess I will leave that there.Things feel hopeless. Someone mentioned that they just kept living in tomorrow and even if things got worse they could derive a morbid humour from that, but... things keep getting worse, I tried to live for tomorrow and now tomorrow makes me nauseous, tomorrow is something I feel I need to avoid. Tomorrow is more abuse, another coping mechanism that stops working, and potentially it is another unsafe day. All I have to look forward to is eventually hearing from my friend again, it has been longer than I would like with no understanding of why they disappeared, but I have to believe that I have that at least because if I start being insecure about them again I have nothing. No reason to keep going. And I feel kind of selfish about that too?This does not feel finished but I guess this is where I am done writing

Finding a purpose

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Unsure how these work or what exactly to write. I have recently been struggling with some intense suicidal ideations for the past two months. Usually I have the constant like daily or a few times a week anyway, but these past few months have been worse for some reason and I’m not sure why. I am currently on a range of medications antidepressants, antipsychotics and mood stabilisers as I have suspected bipolar and experience intense hyper mania and depressive episodes. I find lately that even when I’m have a hyper manic episode that I am having suicidal ideations. I don’t have a plan and I wouldn’t act on them however the nature and birth of the thoughts to begin with is scary and I’m unsure whether to seek help professionally or not considering everyone’s holidays. Oh well that’s just life I guess. thank you !!

Just give me a break!

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I cant catch a break, it's literally one thing after another and noone understands! Today again I got bad news regarding my health.. I honestly can not win! This life I have is hard, and it's sad, I shouldn't have to suffer. All I ever wanted was to be a mum and now it's like I can't be the mum I wanted and it hurts me.. I know my child can do way better! I love him endlessly

I just want an "End!" I cant continue this game of "LIFE!"

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I wrote a post, then worried that the Government might isolate me. Yay. Forum Idea

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