Hi Little bit background. I am just over 60, my wife has just turned 48.
We have been married 18 years have two beautiful daughters. My wife is
an alcoholic, serious demonsare emerging and I don't know what to do.
Reading some of the posts from other...
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Hi Little bit background. I am just over 60, my wife has just turned 48.
We have been married 18 years have two beautiful daughters. My wife is
an alcoholic, serious demonsare emerging and I don't know what to do.
Reading some of the posts from others is like reading our story.
Narcissism, my fault she drinks, life like walking on eggshells, and now
she wants to move out after a huge argument over nothing in which my
youngest daughter also got involved because she is tired of hearing us
fight and me being blamed for things that are just not right. It's is
not an option, I am self employed have been most of my life and
therefore almost unemployable at such an age. I have to keep working at
what I do but that means extended periods of travel overseas (sometimes
2 weeks, sometimes a few months but family flies to join me when school
holidays are on). I hate it but it's life. Work is very irregular, 2
years ago minimal work , home for almost 10 months. Then had an 9 week
and 5 month contracts the following year. I get paid well WHEN I am
working. I am not here to debate this is a factor in "confused
lifestyle" which brings pressure or stress. But we have no other options
believe me I have tried to find alternatives. The kids still at school,
mortgage and bills have to be paid. I tell you all this because if she
moves out I can no longer work and that will destroy our family,
everything we have worked for. Her story is one of confused life, widow
met widower (children both sides) then came my wife. Her mother died
when she was young which hurts her and cause of much sadness. She hated
her domineering father, her sisters did their best to raise her but
domineered her life. Finally out she moved in with chap who hit her and
she left. She does have history of habitual use of cigarettes, alcohol
and (no longer)cannabis). She was a totally different person in early
years of marriage. But now age, changes in life for BOTH of us don't
help the situation. She has some back and hip problems which she thinks
drinking helps with, refuses medications but alcohol is replacing food.
Will not got to AA. The only time we fight is when she is drunk. I try t
do what is recommended give her space, not argue but sometimes the hurt
inflcited gets the better of me and I argue back. I just don't know how
to handle this anymore, what to do. Our kids are beside themselves with
fear of family breakup. I love her totally, need her, want her - I just
don't want the alcoholic !