With regards to triggers and meltdowns it seems everyone is different.
However, a trigger is an unexpected event so you really cannot plan for
them in terms of avoidance. Well, that's not entirely true, by life
changing actions we can minimalise them...
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With regards to triggers and meltdowns it seems everyone is different.
However, a trigger is an unexpected event so you really cannot plan for
them in terms of avoidance. Well, that's not entirely true, by life
changing actions we can minimalise them, improve your environment,
surround yourself with placid, loving people, improve your financial and
employment circumstances etc can help remarkably. Minimalising is not
elimination so having carried out all the changes, triggers still occur
albeit much less. For me a trigger results in a meltdown, like hot water
running through the veins in my head I become highly emotional
(bipolar2). My immediate need is to escape the place I'm occupying no
matter where it is. Yesterday it happened. I attended a podiatrist for
the first time. The pleasant young lady began asking me questions, many
of them associated with the numerous meds and physically issues. My
anger built up (impatience). Then after 45 minutes of this she handed me
a clipboard of questions. That was the real trigger, that feeling I get
when I feel like a school boy going through these motions when all I
want is my feet attended to (cause-domineering narcissistic mother). On
every previous occasion this feeling arrives I leave, walk out. This
time was different, I told her "I'm upset, I think I need to leave".
Straight away she realised I was in a mess and suggested I time out for
a few minutes, she reassured me all is ok and said I can begin speaking
when I'm ready. About 5 minutes later I began to talk again. At all
times she just sat there not saying a word. Clearly this was not your
usual podiatrist, she was magnificent. Within around 10 minutes I was
sitting on the raised chair joking about Tasmania where she came from.
Amazing. I learned a lesson yesterday- to not over react with a
meltdown, to give the person a chance to help, to remedy. To acknowledge
that meltdowns dont last forever and by leaving can exacerbate the
event. Like all problems good management can mean the difference between
a life of turmoil or a life with best management practices to live a
better life. To find a better path is to enter a better life. As always
when I left the shopfront to that medical premises I looked up, at the
trees and the birds and returned to my life of relative happiness. But
today was better than most, I overcame a trigger and meltdown to stay
and wait it out. As long as we improve is all that matters. How do you
manage your meltdowns? Any tips? TonyWK