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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Blondee71 Support
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How can you convince people that the things you mention to help you heal are serious requests? They’re all down for “what can I do to help?”, but when you mention small things they either mock or ignore? How am I supposed to get well@?…

How can you convince people that the things you mention to help you heal are serious requests? They’re all down for “what can I do to help?”, but when you mention small things they either mock or ignore? How am I supposed to get well@?…

Pink grapefruit Motivation as a leader
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When you have toxic team members in your team at workplace who complains to you about your leadership and that makes you less evaluated as a leader, how will you keep motivate yourself and tackle this situation?

When you have toxic team members in your team at workplace who complains to you about your leadership and that makes you less evaluated as a leader, how will you keep motivate yourself and tackle this situation?

Sasuke Daily dose of gratitude
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Hi BBers, I have been staying quite low profile on the forum despite joining a few years ago and this is my first ever post. I feel that my mental health has improved by leaps and bounds since. I personally found that thinking of 1 thing I have been ... View more

Hi BBers, I have been staying quite low profile on the forum despite joining a few years ago and this is my first ever post. I feel that my mental health has improved by leaps and bounds since. I personally found that thinking of 1 thing I have been grateful of each day has really changed my mindset and outlook so am hoping to continue this thread. One thing I am grateful of today is that my dog came up to me for cuddles before I left for work.

Kirb86 I really want to change
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I've been wanting to make a change for a long time, but I can never stick to it. I want to talk to others that suffer depression and have turned to alcohol for comfort or realease, but managed to dig themselves out again and been able to quit drinkin... View more

I've been wanting to make a change for a long time, but I can never stick to it. I want to talk to others that suffer depression and have turned to alcohol for comfort or realease, but managed to dig themselves out again and been able to quit drinking or just enjoy a drink in moderation. All of my friends drink, my partner drinks, my parents drink but I really feel it is taking over and making me less of the person I really want to be. I don't know how to do this, I'm scared. I don't want to lose the connections I have but I want to be healthier and I don't want alcohol to be something I depend on to get through. I just want to know how did you do it?

car10001 need someone to talk to but am ok
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hi everyone am ok just reaching out. was just wondering how people know and what they experience to know when it may be time to leave job (close that chapter) and move onto another (start the next chapter). many of you lot know that am at some point ... View more

hi everyone am ok just reaching out. was just wondering how people know and what they experience to know when it may be time to leave job (close that chapter) and move onto another (start the next chapter). many of you lot know that am at some point wanting to give up hospitality and move onto other things while still capable and be own boss. sometimes things happen or dont go how you expect and you tell yourself not much longer or something else and to just try and hang on. will very likely be giving up hospitality as soon as it sells or closes as have other commitments and responsibilities and other work goals and feel after 14 years. nearly 15 that its time to take a break and move on and concentrate on those. grandparents are needing help and needing to be able to help when needed and have local bingo commitments and want to do other work. also the boss makes things in her shop and other friends try it and miss out and feel doing your own is only way and that am going to have to spend money that dont really have at moment to buy own kits and gear and supplies. how do you find friends to share contents with and a place if you dont have your own place just yet without continually booking cabins (still book one maybe every few months but if its every week or fortnight costs add up). what could you do to find the money. just trying to hang on until place sells or closes and you keep telling yourself probably wont be much longer and to just hang on. do feel positive that the other work is going to work out great however could be like a cousin with his shed building business and take a while to pick up. sometimes you feel a little left out. what could you do. when you look up in google clues that a employee is about to leave or is thinking of leaving some sites list getting new certificates and education as one clue. why would that be a clue when sometimes you can get further education and certificates to benefit your current job or other commitments, because of that you wouldnt think its always a clue. thanks

quirkywords What I learned today.?
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Sometimes when I am having a challenging day I like to think of something I learned no matter how small.I thought it would be interesting to see what others learn each day. what I learnt today.?I found that a person being helpful makes me smile.

Sometimes when I am having a challenging day I like to think of something I learned no matter how small.I thought it would be interesting to see what others learn each day. what I learnt today.?I found that a person being helpful makes me smile.

SC_12 Feeling of Regret and Worry
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Hi I'm currently studying at a Uni here in Melbourne. I got a cat 2 weeks ago and returned him to a rescue organization due to severe anxiety and stress. I have cats back in my home country, and since I miss them, I decided to adopt a cat. However, a... View more

Hi I'm currently studying at a Uni here in Melbourne. I got a cat 2 weeks ago and returned him to a rescue organization due to severe anxiety and stress. I have cats back in my home country, and since I miss them, I decided to adopt a cat. However, after having him, I started feeling uneasy, and anxious and had extreme worries. Worries like if he won't poop, scared too much if he goes out when I'm away most of the day (WIndows and doors re closed though), or my inability to play with him when I get home from work as I'm mentally and physically tired. This led me to sleepless nights, panic and not doing important things like going to school, low energy at work and not being able to talk to my partner and close friends at all. I decided to return him and prioritize myself knowing that I have to juggle so much with study, work, and obligations back in my home country and also for my cat, that he finds a home that has play time and can fully take care of him. Now, I feel sad all of a sudden, miss the cat and sometimes feel empty when I'm alone and if I made the right decision. Can you help me feel better and not to be so harsh on myself? I feel so bad

quirkywords Talking to your inner critic, can it be tamed?
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Do you have an inner critic ? Have you ever tried to talk to your inner critic. This is what happened when I tried. In my Be yourself thread people asked about how I interviewed my inner critic. So here it is. This is adapted from a writing exercise ... View more

Do you have an inner critic ? Have you ever tried to talk to your inner critic. This is what happened when I tried. In my Be yourself thread people asked about how I interviewed my inner critic. So here it is. This is adapted from a writing exercise to interview your inner critic about one's writing. As my inner critic has an opinion all aspects of my life I decided to broaden the scope of the interview. Me: I welcome (well I don't really) this opportunity to find out why you always need to have an opinion that is always negative about me and my life. IC: I thought this was going to be a friendly interchange of ideas but there you go with your anger and hostile remarks. I do not see myself as negative but as helping you, because you do need help. I am here to help you why can't you see that? Me: So when I am trying to sleep and you tell me about all my mistakes, embarrassing moments, how does that help me? IC: I thought while you are in bed you would have time to consider some of your past behaviours. This I feel will only help you to improve. Me: If you are so helpful why do I feel so worthless, so sad, so ignorant when you are around? Do you really know how low I can feel when you are constantly telling me all my faults? IC: You make yourself feel that way- I am merely pointing out the truth. It is not my problem that you are so weak. Me: Maybe this was a bad idea you are never going to listen to me or understand me. IC: Have you ever thought that maybe you shouldn't listen to me if I upset you so much. Me How can I ignore you when you are so loud at times. IC: See this is what I mean you are so weak. You have the power to ignore me, to silence me but all you do is whinge and complain. Me: I am ending this interview. Enough is enough. What would you say to your inner critic and what do you want to hear from your inner critic? Maybe you can have a go at interviewing your inner critic. Quirky

quirkywords To apologise or not to apologise is that the question?
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Welcome everyone. I call myself the queen sorry as I'm always saying sorry whether things are my fault or not . Someone could tread on my toe and I would say sorry .A friend will be late and I'll say sorry. You get the idea. I am often being told I s... View more

Welcome everyone. I call myself the queen sorry as I'm always saying sorry whether things are my fault or not . Someone could tread on my toe and I would say sorry .A friend will be late and I'll say sorry. You get the idea. I am often being told I say sorry way too much and that could affect my self-esteem.. It is just second nature to say sorry. I am not aware of it until someone points it out. I thought I know people who never apologize or rarely apologize but no one ever seems to say to them that they should apologise more. So do you think it is worse to apologise too much or too little ? I am interested in your personal experiences.

jackinthebox87 Inner critic struggle daily
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Hi all and thank you in advance for replies. I'm in my 40s and have battled a life of a strong inner critic to a point now where I simply just struggle to live each day without feeling hard on myself. I've had this weird habit for so many years where... View more

Hi all and thank you in advance for replies. I'm in my 40s and have battled a life of a strong inner critic to a point now where I simply just struggle to live each day without feeling hard on myself. I've had this weird habit for so many years where I journal a pageor so and talk about how I'm going to make some changes and find inner peace. Then in a day or two I feel down for whatever reason and end up throwing away the journal and starting again and then repeat. I definitely had a strict father and have problems because of this but wish I could just break the cycle and get through each day and keep going. I've made so many stupid mistakes in my life and done plenty of bad things just to help numb the emotional pain and it just makes everything worse. I wish I could just have a fresh start but this is not possible. I've had plenty of times where I've had suicidal thoughts but I guess I'm a fighter and still here. It's hard to explain and weird but hoping someone has some similarities or solutions because I've tried so many things. Thanks again.