I've been married to my wife for 19 years. Before we got married I had relationships with both sexes. I knew I was Bi from a young age but I decided I wanted a family so gave up part of who I am to have children. A few weeks ago my wife came out to me and told me she was Bi sexual and wanted to know if I was open to her exploring her sexuality. At this stage she didn't know my secret but I told her that I support her and she is free to explore her sexuality with other women. Then I told her about my own sexuality. She burst into tears told me it just can't be true and ran from the room. We are now sleeping in separate rooms and our relationship is on the edge. I love my wife and always have I've told her I'm not looking for a hall pass I just owed her the truth. Do I still have desires for men, yes I do. Do I miss intimate male contact, from time to time yes. Can I continue to be monogamous with my wife while she explores her sexuality I believe I can, but she can't seem to get past the fact that I have slept with other men, she's fixated on the fact that I was sexualy abused from the age 9 until I was 12 that I'm not Bi but it's because I was raped as a child ( and yes I do suffer from PTSD due to that experience. ) How do I show her that I really am Bi but I'm content with the life I have chosen, how do I save my marriage and not make my wife feel any guilt for being who she is.
