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Feeling so alone

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Hi my name is lucas I'm a ftm transgender and I've been suffering from gender dysforia for along time my twin brother and I have been in and out of hospital for different reasons, my brother has had massive mental health problems and people don't know that I have been too.peoplejust look at me like I'm dealing with basically nothing that because I had trouble with opening up to people the last month or so I have this amazing person named alice by myside she makes me feel comfortable talking to her I could tell her anything the last few days I haven't been able to sleep and I've been feeling really unsettled and suicidal i wish i could tell people what's going on please help me 😔 regards lucas
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Dear Lisaftmlucas,

We’re so grateful to have you reach out to our community and are so sorry to hear everything you have going on at the moment. Times like this can definitely get overwhelming . We hope that you find our forums to be a safe and supportive space to talk through your thoughts and feelings. Our community is here for you. 

Our Support Service is trying to reach out to you via email as we're worried about you. 
We hope you know that there is always help available to you, whether it's from our professional mental health counsellors Beyond Blue (available 24/7/365 on 1300 22 4636) or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).
Keep checking back in with us whenever you feel up to it. 

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Hello (Lisaftm)Lucas,

Growing up with siblings can be rough, mine were both quite unwell (physically) as children and spent a lot of time in different hospitals/specialists etc. So I can understand how your own issues can seem to appear swept under a rug or tucked to one side.

You are welcome to open up on here as much as you feel comfortable and the help lines Sophie_M has listed are great people to talk to. It sounds like your friend alice is an awesome person, there are more like them out there.

Depending on which state or territory you are in there may be some local council services you can get in contact with to meet with other transgender people as a peer group you can talk with/ have coffee etc as and idea to look a little further into about life etc. not just the dysphoria/surgery/stereotypical subjects.

Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Lisaftmlucas,

Thank you for such a raw and open post, I'm so sorry to hear your having a troubling time.

It was hard enough for myself coming out as gay in 2003, I couldn't imagine the difficulties your going through you your current journey of life.

All I can say is to not give up and stay strong, you'll get through these hard times coming out a much stronger person!

We're here for you!



Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Dear Lisaftmluca,

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums..

Im sorry your struggling so much with you feeling unsettled and suicidal...You have been through a lot and still are..

Im wondering and would like to gently ask you if you have any mental health professionals caring for you...and if it’s something that you would consider....suicidal thoughts really need to be talked out with a professional to help you find out and understand what’s happening to you...

Sleep is vital to restore our body and mind..finding it hard to sleep with an overactive mind is very difficult...Do you listen to soft music, meditation or even sleep stories as your trying to sleep...Listening very mindfully to something calming might settle your mind into a sense of calm..which hopefully you can drift of to sleep while listening to them...

It takes a lot of courage to write out your first post..Well done Lucas

Talk here anytime you feel up to it...We are here for you..with the hope that we can support you through this hard time your going through..

My kindest and most caring thoughts..


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I feel alone too ... Or, more to the point, I am alone ... I have tried and tried ... But I am destined to live this way ... I am not here to preach ... But I would encourage you to find something ... Anything to keep you going ... A pet ... A hobby ... A favourite movie ... You keep doing you ... Even in loneliness ... I hope that 'keep going' or something similar can become a mantra for you ...