Hello We Can Get Through It, I believe feelings of love can be very much like an addiction when they're new. We feel thrilled, excited, happy when we're with the person, and then when they're not, it's like withdrawal. We want those feelings again, and when they're absent we can feel a bit empty. Does this sound a little bit like your experience at the moment? With the clinginess, it's as if you're already worried that you might lose this happiness, so you're desperately trying to hold on to it so you don't have to experience those empty feelings when he is not around.
While it might seem scary to do so, you might like to try examining this feeling of suffocating loneliness a bit more. It sounds like one of the things you really value in your new relationship is being in the presence of someone who is very patient and caring. How might you, in your alone times, be more patient and caring towards yourself? One thing I've come to learn over a long time is that, while I have wonderful people in my life whom I love, I am also enough, and in being patient and caring toward myself, I am able to relax and be my best around other people.
It's good that you've noticed your own change in behaviour towards him, and how that might affect your new relationship. As TonyWK has said, try to just be yourself rather than the 'fearful you' that worries you may lose this new connection. Think of how you were a month ago when you first started dating: what was different then about your behaviour that you could try and tap into now to try and steady things?
You're welcome to come back whenever you're ready and talk through your feelings.
