Hi Gypsyangel. Sometimes we have to weigh up whether the financial aspects of remaining in a bad marriage is better than 'going it alone'. It's scary suddenly being alone after the financial security of being in a relationship, but the final decision only you can make. The peace you find after a turbulent relationship ends, no money can buy, that comes from within. All the fighting, horrid things you both say in anger come to an end. Suddenly your life's your own, you don't have to justify to anyone why you want to just stay in bed, should you desire. I would rather be alone than unhappy. You can get a job (volunteer, if you like). My marriage is not happy, but I am because I took control of my life, now the world's my oyster. I have more friends than I know what to do with. It takes strength and guts, but once you make up your mind that, that's how you want to be, the happiness is wow.
My husband does his 'thing' I do mine. We seldom do anything together, but I'm happy because there's no anger. I'm not saying that works for everyone, but because there's no love, it's easy. I've learnt to ignore his rubbish, half the time, I don't even hear him. I'm going on holiday next year with some friends. If you want to stay with him for financial reasons, be clear with him that you won't put up with his put -downs. Don't tell him why you're staying, and don't use your son as a weapon, let him. Your son will soon work out what's what. Have you been to Centrelink for financial help? They can put you on a scheme which will give you financial security. Once your hubby sees your strength, he may be quite surprised, so may you. Don't be his whipping 'boy' anymore, you don't need to.
