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University going husband is probably cheating
Hi Sweetdog, I have no idea what course your husband is doing and what the real commitments might be . What I do know is that you are not feeling safe and secure in your marriage .
You are feeling that you are not being respected and that you can’t trust him . I think this is a warning sign that you guys need to both think about what you want from yourselves and your relationship. You have a child together and it is important for the child’s sake that you are able to treat each other with respect whilst you explore what sounds like a difficult patch.
It may be that he is enjoying spreading his wings in some ways that don’t include you and isn’t sure how to do that in a way that both respects his needs as a person but honours his commitments as husband and father.
Whatever the situation , I think it is ok to talk to him about YOUR expectations , needs , desire for security … there may be room on the table for both of your needs to be met and if not , I would suggest you get some support in exploring how to make sure that your needs are not used under the rug and the expense of his.
I am always a curious person as my wife was ringing someone from a public phone booth three times, so my trust with her was lost and thrown out the window, now that I'm divorced it doesn't really matter, although when speaking with her I often doubt what she is saying to me.
Trust is worth more than gold in any relationship and if there is any doubt then it has to be sorted out, otherwise any decisions that you will both need to make in the future have to be agreed on and any questionnable issues have to be sorted out, because after 2.5 years you both should be on cloud 9. Geoff.