Dear Running_Girl~
I can relate to your situation. When my first wife died I met another, in fact we did not actually meet but started corresponding, which quickly led to emails - lots of them. A little different to texting as there is more space and required sitting at a desk at a computer, not just anywhere. At the time I did not think this was the best way to go, impatient I guess.
Looking back I think it was. We both put a lot in those emails, and went on that way for a couple of months. during that time we discussed all sorts of things and came to know each other better. Then when we met we had the expected physical distraction - but had already come to know each other a bit, so the distraction was not so blinding, less chance of mistakes.
Waiting for the email to arrive, and trying to second-guess what was meant if a section was ambiguous was hard. Clearing up meaning meant asking, and that was no bad thing. Each of us got to see where the other could not understand something and could put things another way. This sort of interaction meant we understood each other more.
It did take being a bit more proactive, asking where one might feel uncomfortable, but it worked out.
With waiting, we would say we had to work and would mail in the evening or before work or whatever, so we got to know when to expect a message -we also sent a brief one if we were not going to send the regular one on time.
It all boiled down to consideration for the other and understanding. If you are getting over-worried about messages arriving I'd suggest talking with your friend and arranging things so you don't have to deal with unexpected pauses. A small thing for someone to accommodate if they are concerned for you.
I sure hope it works out for you.
Croix
