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I am new here but interested to know more about stonewalling. My husband has had a lot of experience as he has been doing it to me for as long as I can remember but at this time in my life I have reach the end of my tether with it. He blames me for him doing it, and actually says I am the one who starts it so I am wondering how others have coped with the silent treatment over & over again, sometimes just for a few hours but mostly for a lot longer, sometimes even weeks.....I find now that I don't try to talk to him when he is like this as it goes nowhere, I just have to ride it out until he decides to start talking...
Welcome to Beyondblue. That must be really difficult not being able to communicate with a loved one. I'm so sorry you've experienced this over and over again. I've done this with a loved one, it feels so exhausting and stressful, that after a while I would get really physically sick.
Once my body has reached its tether physically, I know that the only solution to feeling better is talking about it. (I know the irony) Maybe with friends, family members, health professionals and trying to rationalise the behaviour.
Stay positive, know that there is always someone willing to listen on these platforms.
Thank you, yes talking about it does help but I am getting sick & tired of living with it.
Sorry you have also been through the same, it is reassuring that others understand, like you said it is very draining emotionally & physically. I appreciate your support. Thank you
I can imagine you are very tired of this.
I'm not a health professional and I admire the work they do. If this is really troubling you and beginning to make things far too difficult, speak to someone with more expertise. They may be able to assist during these trying times. I hope you get the help you deserve. We are always here.
Im sorry that you’re having a difficult time. I wanted to reply as my mother does the exact same thing. Sometimes it’s a couple of days, but the longest was three weeks and she made it sound like I was ignoring her, but she never contacts me after an argument.
It is unfair what he’s doing. Have you got a close friend or relative you can confide in?
My ex of only 2 weeks was a chronic stone-waller.
It is such a horrible thing to endure. She would at times for no known reason stop talking to me. It would last sometimes a whole weekend or just a day. It made me feel like I was going loopy.
Silent treatment was her weapon to keep my confused and in doubt. She had other destructive behaviours but the silent treatment/stone-walling was one of the more insidious.
Even now I have left, I am now extremely hyper-vigilant and paranoid, that constant walking-on-eggshells experience causes so much damage in the long term.
It's a form of emotional abuse. For me, after 5 1/2 years , I had to leave. I couldn't deal with it any more.