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Hi HAFY, welcome
Families can be fickle, meaning every family is different as there are several personalities and the chemistry sometimes just doesn't flow.
With families there are obligations. There are also measures we need to be aware of as we can take some action we might regret later on.
Depending upon what your dad has done to you, the most mature thing you can consider doing is seek counselling for him and you. What should be your goal here? Perhaps it should be for you and your dad to be on speaking terms but for you both to accept that at this period in your life, you wont get along like a house on fire. If you both got to that point then he might leave you alone more and you to, just be civil.
We all have relatives that we tolerate. We also should be aware that as our life changes, we can get close to parents that we despised as teenagers. You might "hate" him now but will you when he is old and less annoying?
There Is a lot of issues to consider so I'm suggesting counselling. You could start with a visit to your doctor to discuss this matter.
Thank you White Knight for your reply, but I am already in counseling with my father but it is not working and we have come to the conclusion that I am moving out and that will solve a lot of issues.
Thank you Pipsy for your reply, yes it was my real cousin, legally I can not go see my mother and I am perfectly fine with my entire family but him.