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Shout out to anyone else whose relationship has imploded during COVID-19 - we can do this!
Wow, the prospect of having to find places to live, sell our apartment in Sydney, and dissolve assets and agree on parenting without spending too much money we don't have is really, really daunting! I'm using humour because I'm scared shitless!
Partner won't go to counselling first, so it's straight to the dispute resolution folks for hopefully, an agreement on parenting.
I keep thinking I've cried my last tear, but then we attempt another conversation, and it all comes up again...can I possibly fast forward 12 months? Is there an app for that?
Glad you’re still posting.
I went through the same process in 1996. Two young children.
Both of us couldn’t afford high solicitor bills either.
It is s tough time for all. Children are more resilient than us adults and will adapt ok.
There is damage to your self esteem coming so have a cry and move forward. I hope you both can keep your base friendship going but it takes two and my first wife didn’t have that capability
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There is no "app for that"; if there was, I would have downloaded it myself.
If your partner is not will to go to counselling, I'm guessing that you are the one that wants to save the relationship. I was in the same predicament; unfortunately it takes two.
The only practical advice I can offer is to check out the "Relationships Australia" (RA) website. They are a community-based, not-for-profit Australian organisation offering counselling and "Family Dispute Resolution" services (FDR). They can help couples come up with a property agreement and a parenting plan; minimising the need for expensive lawyers. Depending on income the service fees are free to low; you will need to check.
RA also offer a counselling service, assuming you can get your partner to participate.
Here is the RA web address: https://www.relationships.org.au/
I don't want to save the relationship; I want to work through the current hostilities so that we can have a smoother separation. I've pointed out to him that we'll be in each others lives forever so we'll have to get there eventually, but he's not interested. I do understand that it's not my place to tell him when to stop being angry, but I feel like he has an obligation to at least try to work through it.
I've checked out Relationships Australia and am so grateful for all the amazing information and advice there. It's heartbreaking to contemplate not seeing my daughter 50% of the time, but I will have to be as resilient and adaptable as she will need to be.