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Should I leave him?
from my own experience, I'd say the fact that you're asking if you should break up is a flashing sign. I should have kept walking when my ex and I split up at the two year mark but we wasted two more years before I ended it definitely. He's not even trying, that's a sign.
Goodluck, it's not easy but you can do it
I think you already know what you should do, but are having concerns about the decision. If you are having these sorts of problems now at two years and neither of you are willing to over look them. The situation is not going to get any better.
What you might think is Love now, might just be a case of a sense of comfort or security. A know factor in your life that you are use too. This would make it difficult to give up on, or make changes.
From a male point of view and an older one, the things you you have talked about, with the difficulties in your relationship to date are really not that important at all. Sorry for being harsh with this. But if between the two of you if you can not look past these issues and resolve them. Then when something bigger comes along, it is going to have a larger effect on the both of you.
Being in a relationship, married, boy friend and girlfriend, engaged or other wise. Is all about talking. You have to have the trust in your partner to be able to talk openly and honestly about anything and everything. Solve your issues together, talk calmly and reach a middle ground where the both of you are happy.
But by the sounds of it, you are not in that sort of relationship. It might also be a bit one sided. While you maintain that you Love him, or think you do. The same strong feelings you have may not be, the way he feels. Be open to the idea that while having been in a relationship for two years, your partner dose not feel the same as you do.
I truly wish all the best, it is a hard time in life working these things out. Good luck with it all.
Love is a funny word in so many different ways where the first few months of a relationship you're on cloud 9, but as it progress's then your true feelings begin to surface and disagreements or arguments start to happen even though the love is still there, but as time goes on then the relationship can become tense, where you may
There maybe love still there but this love is not going to make you both get on with life together in any happy way.
Sure most marriages/relationships have disagreements but it's whether or not they have a laugh at the end of the day.
First of all, let me just say how grateful I am for all of your kind, supportive advice. I appreciate it so much. I have seriously thought a lot and realised that, I think this guys is all talk and I finally see how miserable he has made me and has been dragging me down! He has never tried properly to communicate to understand me and my point of view. Even when I have opened up to him about things, it has only ever drawn us further away rather than closer and he is so withdrawn himself that it is often like talking to a brick wall. He has also been really unsupportive about my life choices, like choosing to leave an internship that wasn't paying me and was just a waste of time. His reason was because I promised him I would do the internship? Yeah, I think this guys a total manipulator. It's amazing how blind love can be. The things you can overlook when in love. I have always known exactly what all of you are essentially saying (a relationship is all about two-way communication). Couples will always fight, and you're all exactly right 🙂 It's not the fighting that matters which is inevitable, it's whether or not you can work it out and love each other enough to take the bad with the good and laugh it off at the end of the day. We clearly do not have that. Thank you all so much for helping me come to my decision.
glad you shared, sounds like you know what you need to do. It's not easy to end it but better things are to come.
Stay strong 😃