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Should I give him a second chance? (Emotional abuse)
Thank you for reaching out and sharing. Well done for putting you first and asking him to leave. I can see you feel that was right for you and I am glad you honored that for yourself. The only one suggestion I have is to think about how you FEEL and trust that instinct. If you FEEL it is not right to go on a date with him, honor that. If you FEEL scared, look at it and ask why you feel that way? Being scared and frightened may be not a good start to a nice date? I am not sure for you, however it is just my thoughts only. I feel maybe three months is quite a short time to work through things for you. Your feelings, thoughts, hurts, emotions and pain. Perhaps maybe some more time out for you or perhaps you feel you have had enough time out and would like to go on that date. It is completely up to you, these are just some things to think about if you want to. Be kind, good and gentle on yourself during this time. You are worth that.
I agree with 2quik. Three months is not a long time and I can’t help being pessimistic in cases like yours.
Ten years of emotional abuse is inexcusable in my view. Even if he has changed (which I doubt), you deserve better. He had his opportunity with you and he blew it, big time.
I congratulate you on your resolve in giving him his marching orders. If you open the door to him again, I fear you will regret it.
It's difficult because we are brought up to give others second chances and I guess we all have hope that maybe people can change. I agree with 2quik I think you need to concentrate on your feelings about the date and how you honestly feel about him. Don't feel pressured because he is doing work on himself, although that is a good thing it is not reason enough for you to ignore your gut instincts and your feelings on this. You come first. You should ask yourself honestly "Do I really want to see him, do I want him in my life?" Whatever you decide make sure it comes from what is best for you, not what he wants for himself.