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Seperated & now husband has a girlfriend
Hi M_R It would've been devastating marrying him in good faith, believing you had found Mr Right. He sounds extremely unstable and quite scary. It's highly possible he is treating his new gf similar to the way he treated you. May I ask who lives in the matrimonial home, if you do, I would be inclined to get some legal advice about your rights and his. You may find you can stop him just calling when he feels like it. I would also get some legal advice in regards to him taking your children to visit the new gf. If you're not agreeable to this, perhaps an arrangement could be made regarding this. Some lawyers will allow 20 minutes free. If you have little/no income I think legal aid can be arranged. Try not to dwell on the intimate side of his new relationship. I tend to agree with your statement doubting he ever loved you. I also feel he doesn't love this new gf either. I feel he is unable to love as he is incapable. I also feel he will eventually tire of her and move on. Perhaps a visit to your Dr for some short term AD's for the depression you are experiencing. Also perhaps some counseling to help you get through this. The grief you are experiencing is real and talking about it with someone experienced in grief will help you move ahead. BB have counselors 24/7 who will help you and offer support. The high anxiety you feel is part of the grief. BB's helpline is listed at the top of the page, please call.
You have mentioned that you were never loved by this man, so what he seems to be doing is that he only wants a sexual partner, and yes once he gets sick of this new lady he will move on and on, and will never be able to settle down.
This isn't what you what or need because you want to have someone who is a father to the children and settle down with you.
Sure he may love the kids, but by taking them to his new g/friend's place isn't love, it's showing them off to her, pretending to be the perfect father, which indeed he isn't.
I would go to a lawyer as Lynda has suggested and would seriously consider divorcing him, otherwise I'm so sorry this will keep on happening, until he runs out of ladies who he can have sex with, because that's his only intention to lie and pretend to these other ladies just to satisfy his needs. Geoff. x