dear Real Buttons RB, I can only say how sorry I feel for you, because when someone does get depression or has been suffering from it for awhile then it's really impossible to be able to tell what they are going to do, and in a relationship whether they will stay or whether they will want to leave you, because as before you could talk to each other about was going to happen, but unfortunately not now, as this doesn't happen.
Can I just ask whether he has had any long term relationships, and please only ask if you want to, because this could be a trend that he is used to doing.
It's never nice when you have formed a loving union between each other and then it's not nice when he wants to by himself because it hurts you dearly.
He obviously seems to want to stay in touch with you, and that's good, and I'm sure that you have told him that you love him and do want to be with him, which is always good for him to know, but at the moment this may not register, so please don't be too upset by his lack of reaction, depression causes this.
I know that it would feel very difficult for you that what ever you say to him may not register and won't get the reaction you were hoping for.
The important part now is that he needs to see his doctor, because he won't feel any better by hoping that he can overcome all of his demons by himself, because it's virtually impossible to do this, as the strength he needs he hasn't got at the moment.
The trouble is that he may feel as though he can overcome it, and then there's the possibility of him being in denial which is anothwer step backwards.
Maybe you could suggest to go with him to his doctor's appointment, but it doesn't end there he has to continue on with counselling, and remember he may have to go through a couple of psych's before he finds one that he feels comfortable with.
I hope to hear back from you. Geoff. x
