Hi there,
Thanks for sharing with us.
It's great to hear that you've confronted your partner about how you feel and have taken steps to reflect on what might be the cause of your overthinking and anxieties. That's a great strength. Moving into a long distance situation is a very significant change in your life and relationship, especially so if you feel there was a bit of codependency, or even just spent a lot of time together.
I can sense from what you've written that you have genuine anxiety that has been affecting your day to day. Unfortunately, no amount of reassurance from your partner will make it go away as you've discovered, and that's okay. As frustrating as it is, anxiety can still exist even if you have evidence to prove your worries wrong - it's a very real and genuine physiological response that can feel as though it's out of our control. You're valid for what you're feeling and thinking even if you know there isn't concrete truth in it.
I've found mindfulness and meditation very helpful in times where my anxiety is through the roof and causing me to feel overwhelmed. There are plenty of apps to try - calm, headspace or smiling mind. Simple reminders to eat well, drink more water, go for a walk - little activities to take care of yourself can go a long way. Self care is very important.
How would you feel about contacting a GP to discuss the anxiety you've been feeling?
Don't be too hard on yourself. Perhaps from this big although temporary life change, you've become a lot more vulnerable to stress and anxiety. Anxiety can become debilitating, and you're never expected to know how to manage it on your own. It's a learned skill, and there are many resources out there both professional and self care related that are more than worth looking into.
I hope you're taking care, I'd love to hear from you.
