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Relationship advice about a partner with depression who pushes people away when stressed
Welcome to the forums and well done for posting too! I have depression and will try to help, even a little 🙂
When my depression was strong I used to push my girlfriends away. When a person has depression their self esteem can take a big hit as well and they may feel like they are not 'worthy' of your love and commitment.
'Recovering from depression' is a long piece of string if we choose to measure it. Please dont think I am being negative for a second as I am only saying that depression can hang around for longer for some than for others.
Even being in recovery from depression can be awful. It can sometimes feel like having a heavy dark blanket over your head and even with the brightest and most caring partner 'it can be hard to find our way'
Your partners change of mindset can be the result of the roller coaster ride of depression with the 'highs and the lows' where relationships are concerned. I know you have mentioned 'also recovering from depression' but if I may ask if your partner (or yourself with respect of course) has been diagnosed with depression? and are taking any meds?
You are an intelligent and well articulated person Pink. I am only a guy that has had depression since 1996 and recovering, not a psychologist. Just a reminder that moving house/premises/location is in the top 3 of major life stress triggers.
You mentioned "I don't know if it's the stress with moving and looking for a place but her moods have been low"
I have been in the same place for 25 years and single but if I was to move anywhere even without being in a relationship it would be super stressful to me to then point of me doubting my own judgement through the fear of relocation.
I do hope some of that was of help to you Pink 🙂
My very kind thoughts to you both