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Rejection by group of friends
I had an very close group of women friends that I loved dearly and saw every week for nearly 4 years. I had been getting the feeling that I wasn't as welcome as I used to be but thought I had been imagining it. Things came to a head a few weeks ago and I felt that I needed to ask if everything was ok. So I did. To cut a long story short the answer was that they didn't like my personality anymore. Even though they said I was a kind and giving person it seems they had enough of me. These friends have been there as fantastic friends and support as they know things can get tough for me as all of my family have mental illness. These women were the very last people I thought would behave like this.
i am really struggling to come to terms with this as I didn't think I'd be dealing with this in my late forties. It feels like intense grief like someone has died and I can't seem to get things straight in my head. The feeling of loss is huge and I can't for the life of me understand what happened. The feelings are starting to impact other areas of my life. I am trying very hard to move on and remain positive but I cant
Welcome to BeyondBlue and thanks for reaching out.
First, I want to tell you how sorry I am that you've experienced this and your friends have said that to you. It's incredibly difficult to be on the receiving end of comments like these. I also know that there is often not a lot people can say to make you feel better because the loss of a friend is very much like grief. There can be a lot of anger, sadness and confusion.
The best advice that I have for you is to allow yourself to experience this loss. Often people will lose friends but they will try to pretend that it never happened and to 'move on quickly'. Friends are a big part of our lives, so it's completely understandable that you would be hurt by them.
When you're ready, you may find that it helps to find activities just for you, as often it can be hard to reach out again (to new friends). Journalling, exercise, yoga, running, knitting, meditation, baking - all of these are healthy activities that can allow you to focus just on you.
All the best and I hope this helps a little.
Yes I know what rejection feels like too... For me it is a deep gnawing sensation in your whole heart. It makes me just want to curl up tight and cry an cry.
I am so sorry others have felt this pain as well and my tears are for them. Hugs to us all xxxx