Hi Trying19,
I can imagine that you must be feeling completely shell-shocked, to find this out at any time is traumatic enough, but to find out at 7 months pregnant is completely devastating. If you have made the decision to salvage the relationship for the sake of your lives together and your children, then you must work to that. From you, I think that involves sitting down and talking to your partner. Letting him know that you are willing to move forward and are making steps to heal, but also explaining that this is a process that takes time and he needs to exercise patience in that. There will be times where you will feel good and other times where you will feel hurt and angry and betrayed, but I think that you just need to try and work through these negative relationships and he needs to not push you during these times. From him, you will require him to be honest and own up to the affair and how long it went on for. I think the ‘why’ can also be a valuable insight, but it’s not acceptable for him to try and shift the blame onto something you’ve done. And finally a genuine apology for the hurt that he has caused. You may not get all of these, but I imagine that a relationship counselor can help you both navigate through this.
Sending you hugs xx
