Hello Player, I'm really sorry that your comment has been missed by the good people on this site and perhaps I can explain why is that if the site is busy then comments are pushed over to page 2 or 3 and somehow go under the radar, I want to apologise.
Your story is such a lovely one but with someone who is afraid to get help and definitely scared to lose you, but unfortunately numerous people who she loved so dearly passed away and then the house was sold so it must feel as though she has lost most things in life.
This is going to affect her and the situation will feel very lonely, that's understandable but if she carries these dark thoughts for too long then they are only going to build up inside her and affect her and change her personality.
I feel for what's happened and know that all you want to do is help her, by seeing someone who she can talk with to release these dark thoughts.
People with depression don't want to talk about everything with the person they love because sometimes they believe that this person may not want to listen to what is said, so these dark secrets are kept locked away, so we may never know what is causing the trouble although she has told you some of her dark thoughts, however there maybe others which are not mentioned.
When she opens up when confronted may not necessarily be the real problems, sure when any of us are in the same position, we do get cross and make comments that could only be half true, but in depression the main problems are not mentioned, you just argue about each other.
Try and coax her into seeing her doctor or perhaps going to the local Health Centre where counsellors and social workers work because once she does start talking to anyone then she may decide to get the help she needs.
My best wishes.
Geoff.
