Parents Of Adult Children, Did Any Of You Cut Your Grown Up Children Out Of Your Will?
My type of depression isnt the type to restrict me to bed. I get up then wander aimously around, cry a lot, write sad poetry. And try to work out the meaning of life also.
But I soon motivate myself. I think of an example where someone has exceeded beyond their dreams, their abilities. Last week I recalled Kathy Watt, the gold medalist in long distance cycling. She won gold from a plan. She would get to the front of the pack, then pull away. Knowing they would want to catch up to her she'd put in another 10% effort BEYOND HER BEST. Then 3 minutes later another 10% beyond her best. She knew one thing, her normal best was as fast as her rivals. So 20% beyond her very best was unbeatable. Finally towards the finish line she pulled out another 5 %. She knew she had gold.
This inspires me. It snaps me out of my gloom. But it wont wont for everyone. But I urge sufferers to find "their way" to put one step in front of the other to get to the open air. Anything to feel you have achieved.
Thank you for sharing your most recent post.
I applaud you with your stand you took to your daughter and your final sentence that you delivered to her before you closed the door. Well done.
In instances like that, I usually jam up and think about 3 hours later, "Oh damn, THAT'S what I should have said". So well done to you and also for getting the key. And oh wow, she still must have a dig at you.
I agree with you, the chances of her waking up and changing sound very remote.
Charlsc provided a really good thing - so when you do go to the shops, to get the necessities; also get yourself some nice flowers - a great suggestion. Then sit them pride of place in the kitchen, or family room - somewhere near where you will see them regularly - and NO Struggler, don't you dare say, on your bedside table 😉 😉 😉
ps: this Canadian trip will be a definite challenge. I've been warming to it of late, but just over the past few days, things have changed in my mind - and it's that old depressive state, where you cannot put words to why or how this has come about.
I know it won't be a waste of money - because there's 4 of us going, so at least I know definitely that 3 will be over the moon with everything. I've just gotta dig real deep.
Anyway, sorry, I'm not hi-jacking your thread with my troubles anymore.
My husband has two adult children. He is planning to leave his million dollar home to his son alone. Not to me (wife of 4 years) and not to his daughter who caused him much grief during her teenage years.
This is his prerogative. It doesn't matter if I or anyone else thinks it's right or wrong.
People make decisions like this for various reasons... some make them for practical reasons, others for emotional reasons, others for financial reasons. It sounds like you are making the decision for emotional reasons and that is totally fine and completely your choice.
You can't make everyone else happy, you just need to do what gives you peace.