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Not coping...2 weeks after a break up
Hi 747, welcome
Cliches are from people because they are powerless to help you. Understandable but frustrating.
He is cold because he has made his mind up.
Ive had my heart broken 3 times. It never gets easier. However I did try a number of ideas that ended up working.
They are mentioned in the following threads. I hope you improve over time and see a future eventually.
Topic: the best praise you'll ever get- beyondblue
Topic: coping with grief- beyondblue (there might be bits relevant)
So sorry to hear about what you are going through - sounds absolutely heartbreaking. I had a very similar thing happen to me last year (break up out of the blue after a 4 year relationship) and I know it totally sucks. It's an absolutely agonising place to be in, though it sounds like even in this horrible darkness you are making really measured decisions - eg. giving yourself the space you need. One thing that worked for me was going totally no contact. I know this isn't really an option if you need to communicate about the unit you own, but I think you need to prioritise your healing/well-being over being friends at this stage. Do you have any friends you can stay with/turn to - even just to be around, not necessarily to interact with?
I don't want to give you any clichés. Just know that it's OK to feel how you are feeling, and if you need to vent this is a safe space of people who understand.
All the best.
Thank you for your words of support. Sunday & today have been much better but I am conscious that the rollercoaster of emotions will hit me again for some time to come. He has offered to help me move out which is kind but I also don't know if I want him to know where I will be living etc. I am trying my best to own all the emotions that come with this process but the anxiety seems overwhelming. My doctor has prescribed small doses of medication to overcome the anxiety but this is only a short term fix.
I am trying my best to only focus on the now and not on tomorrow or next week or next month. I honestly believe that time will heal me but I just wish it was not this painful.
You seem to be handling it logically.
Time heals. You are doing ok