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My Suspicions Were Right All Along- He Had An Affair :(
I remember talking to you last year when you were suspicious of your partner and I'm devastated that your suspicions were correct - I was really really hoping that they weren't.
It also sounds awful the way that you had to find out and I feel frustrated that you had to go from fear of him having a car accident to finding out and then seeming like the bad guy in all of it!
I'm not too sure what I can say to help- maybe someone else can offer some more support and advice here - but I just want to say that I'm sorry that this happened to you. You didn't deserve it and it's unfair.
I hope that you're able to find some more support here. Maybe you can think of some nice things to do for yourself - giving yourself a big dose of kindness and self care (whatever that looks like). This feeling probably really sucks but it won't last forever.
Firstly im really Sory whats happen to you.
I know exactly how hard it is finding out someone you love is lying to you.
I'm 27 i have been with my partner since we were 14 he is the love of my life in my eyes i see him as my best friend i tell him everything..we have 2 children together 10 and 8. But i have been suspicious of his behaviour for years, he is someone that likes to go out alot where as i prefer to be at home with the kids.
It all started with the phone being sneaky going out for long periods of time which lead to me digging deeper and found out hed been messaging numerous girls when i would approach him about it he would say hes never done anything physically behind my back he always said it was just over phone talking.this has happened to me nearly every year or every couple of years since my 8 year old was born, he always said he never done anything with them and for some reason i always believed him, i dont know why i always forgive him im just so in love with him i cant make the right decision to leave, i am sitting feeling like i dont what to do this morning as last night i had my partners best mate knock at the door to say my partner had been drinking with him at his place where there was a a girl and apparantly they were hooking up and she was on his lap im so so uspet i havnt moved all day i feel sick,
My partners saying he didnt kiss her and he told her to get off him.
Im just so upset that i just don't know what to do.
I've asked him to leave me alone for a couple of days.
I don't know why i keep allowing this to happen to me
Bee, I am so sorry your suspicions were right and that you were treated so badly by your partner. You will be in shock and take a while to plan what you want to do.
Welcome Emmy to the forum and thanks for having the courage to write your first post.
our partner seems to have a history of behaviour that you find inappropriate and that is upsetting you.
It seems like you partner's best mate was concerned about you partners behaviour so much he told you.
I realise you love him very much. Is it possible to sit down and explain how you feel about his behaviour . You may say that you wont put up with this behaviour anymore as it upsets you, Or what ever you want to say. It is your life and if you are ok with his behaviour repeating and you can cope with that, it is your decision.
You are welcome to keep posting here but if you wanted to start your own thread people would be able to help you. You could cut and paste what you have written onto a new thread.
You have been through so much and you need time to work out what you want and what you are prepared to put up with.
Another question is why does your partner keep doing things that upset you?
When you have children it is a very hard decision to leave .
Do you have a friend or family member who can offer support?