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My life is chaos recent breakup is killing me!
My ex hates me. I want to try and make it work but I'm told I'm a narcissist,
I have a sex addiction, I'm seeing someone behind her back and I'm being out right deceitful.
She has access to all my gmail phone account everything.
She still says I am up to no good. I am not at all I am being honest and iv said I want her and my son's In my life.
And I want it to work I am a open book. I know she can see everything and that's fine but for something I havnt done?
I know it is finished, she doesn't love me at all any more. Understandable.
I still want to try and be a good dad and ex partner but in every way I'm accused of being a sly creepy loser.
I have just called men's health line about my situation and thoughts of suicide. I need a behaviour group therapist.
I want to live my life but to be told I would be better off 6 feet under , Kills. I'm not hiding anything from her I am not being deceitful. I really just want help with me living my life in peace and not like I'm on the FBI watch list.
I'm just not sure what and where I should go hope I can sort something out coz it's effecting everything I just wish we worked our relationship out and made the family I wanted for my boys. And sorry to my family for failing them i wish I didn't coz I am innocent here I don't want war I want peace.
Who can i talk to and thanks if any one reads this. Brad
The Beyond Blue forums are a very good place to start. Welcome and thank you for taking the brave step in sharing this with us today. We're sorry to hear how much turmoil you are in at the moment and want you to know things can get better.
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Welcome to BB; I wish it could have been under better circumstances.
First off, I don't think you are a "narcissist"; if you were, you would not be on BB looking for answers. Reading through your post, I can see many similarities to my own separation a little over a year ago.
I got the same list of vile accusations from my wife. Sadly, at first, I believed everything I was told. I blamed myself for the marriage failure. I took some time for me to realise that my wife was really talking about herself, not me. If you are interested, look into the phycology of abuse by a narcissist; it's a real eye opener.
There is help out there if you are willing to look for it. Adding to what Sophie_M has suggested, you can get Medicare subsidized access to a phycologist by visiting your GP, and asking for a "Mental Health Care Plan". If you are having thoughts of suicide this might be a good place to start. In addition, your GP might suggest some sort of medical intervention in the form of medication. You will need all the help you can get.
Have you have any legal advice on property and parenting? If no, "Relationships Australia" or the "Men's Legal Service" are cost effective options.
I wish you luck in your peace talks!
So sad what you’re going through.
Good advice given above.
This is the time for withdrawing from your ex as you can’t do anything right. Also put in place some personal protection eg (as Mr Paul has said) legal measure to guarantee property division and visitation rights.
There is a possibility your ex could over time mature some and have some conversations about the kids and that I’m afraid is all you could wish for.
For the remainder of your life- move on.As time goes by it gets easier and more time and you’ll be grateful it didn’t work out.
My guilt with my ex melted away when I dropped my kids off one day, her new husband met me at the gate and asked me for advice. He mentioned problems he had with her- the same issues I had. He left her soon after.
So don’t blame yourself. Be the best part time dad your kids will ever have!
Theyll appreciate you. Even if you’re demonised by her.
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