Hello Sad&Confused, I am so sorry that this has happened, especially the year you were married that he believed it was OK to have an affair, certainly something you wouldn't allow because you marry for trust and dedication to each other and should be looking forward in making plans for your future.
It's hard to know whether or not he loves you because that's what he could be saying to this other person and now I'm sorry you are struggling, especially as you have a new baby, and although I'm not a doctor, PND could have been added to this disappointment and definitely is a great concern you are going through.
I am so pleased you are seeing a psychologist but wonder the excuses he has said to his psychologist because there should be no reason why this has happened just as you get married.
I realise you love him, just as you do for your daughter, however, how can you be sure he won't do the same once again, especially if the two of you have an argument, he needs to prove his trust and his faith in helping you all the way through this, so perhaps having a separation would be a test in his honesty.
We are here for you SC and want to be with you all the way.
My very Best.
Geoff. x
