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My fiancé never touches me...
Nice to meet you, and I’m sorry that you are going through such a rough time at the moment. Human beings crave affection and reassurance and it sounds like you’re not getting much of either. People are somewhat conditioned in relationships to turn inward and assume that the problem is us, but I want to assure you that is rarely the case. Sex can be a bit of a mine field for men, and is perceived as being intrinsically linked to their masculinity or ‘manhood’. I suspect that your partner’s issues may relate to his accident. I think him mentioning that to his friend was a way of letting him know that it all still worked and he was still a ‘functioning’ man. What has he lied to you about other relationships with women? Did he make out that he had more than he had? I think your partner’s issues come from a place of anxiety. I think that time and reassurance will work wonders. That being said, a relationship counselor may help you get to the bottom of this and help reassure him of your intentions and let him know your needs.