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Mum can't handle me getting irritated by things that are actually pretty irritating
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Im sorry this has caused you some distress.
Maybe you could give your parents the benefit of the doubt maybe your Dad didn’t think it was that loud or simply forgot you were working.
I understand that what happened has upset you and your parents, can you all calmly discuss each other’s point of view?
I understand that when your Dad was making a noise you went and spoke to your mum instead of your Dad.
I believe if you had of approached your Dad first he would have maybe realised his error and apologised on the spot.
I hope you all work everything out together.
Thanks for the reply. The noise itself didn't upset me that much - it was just the lack of recognition that it does bother people, it would have bothered anyone in that situation.
Why didn't they apologise?
Yes, I would have liked to go and discuss it with him. My mum headed me off when I was on my way downstairs to do this. I think she is very protective of him and sees any complaint from me as aggression against him .
I ended up sorting it out with him with mum out of the room, and that went really well. He was fine. She treated me like I'd gone insane - and I'm still really upset about that.
I’m sorry they didn’t apologise……
Can you have a calm conversation with them about it?
I understand that it doesn’t feel very nice to feel the way you feel…….. do you think you could express to your parents about the way they made you feel?
I'm sorry to hear your mum made you feel so dismissed and invalidated. It sounds like this is something that has happened in the past as well?
It's good that you were able to sort things out with dad. I hope having even just one person believe you can make a difference.
Hello Libelle, even though the initial intention was a good idea for you to work at home, is there somewhere else you can go because this may continue against your wishes because your dad is a musician and wants to practice.
Your num can't hear anything because she is used to the noise, but it's going to unsettle you.