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Maybe more than a friend? But ignoring me now.
Hello Nicole, welcome to the forums.
I can see how much you want to be with him with all the long discussions together which is lovely, unfortunately, there are two issues that he needs to attend to if your relationship is to survive.
It's hard to tell whether he's been using 'ice' to try and 'help' him with his depression or has his depression made him take up ice.
You can certainly help him, although it's going to be very difficult not only for him but for you also, so does he need to stop smoking the ice first or does he get help for depression because both are causing the other to happen.
This is something you need to ask someone who is experienced but I would think that he needs to stop the ice then he can get the help he needs for his depression.
Neither of these is going to be easy, especially his drug habit because if he can stop then any time when something bad happens, he
I can't tell you to leave or stay, but if you were my sister I would suggest that it would be easier to leave him, rather than having to cope with his drug addiction.
Welcome to the forum.
I understand how much this guy means to you and how you really enjoy communicating with him and how your friendship has developed more since he confided in you about his drug addiction.
You mentioned that he did not tell you about the drugs until an ex girlfriend told you and then he told you and that helped you help him.
I am wondering if he was having problems with depression or a relapse with drugs or another problem do you think he may be worried to tell you as he may be a bit ashamed. He obviously thinks a lot of your friendship which is why he was worried about going further in case it spoilt the friendship.
I don't think he would feel you abandoned him but he may have really wanted to tell you something at that moment and so later when you contacted him he was not in the right frame of mind to reply to you.
Maybe would you be able just to wait till he contacts you again, as he does not seem to respond when you contact him multiple times.
It sounds like he has a lot going on , and maybe when he is ready he will contact you.
These are just my ideas and only you know what would be the most suitable thing for you to do.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Hi Nicole, I'm really sorry this has happened but you can't be expected to drop everything if you have other commitments, it's a 'give and take' situation.
Do you know if he is getting any help for his depression and drug use?
Hello Nicole, it's very difficult for you to help him when he doesn't respond to your text messages, so it's difficult to know what's going on.
The problem is if you are unable to communicate with him or if you do then it's only sporadically, so you are going to be worried most of the time.
You have asked whether or not to give up, well at the moment you can't be living every day waiting to see if he is going to contact you, not knowing whether or not he has relapsed back into taking the drugs once again.
You know he needs professional help but I'm not sure whether he is or whether he knows.