Hi, welcome
Boy, what a mum you are, so wonderful to read of a parent that has endured so much but has the courage to post.
I'm hoping your GP can assist with arranging some respite or similar assistance. I think your husband needs to share your GP appointments also because he is struggling.
I did have a nephew once by marriage that had ADHD and was the oldest of 5 kids. He was indeed a handful and I really pitied his mother. a stay at home mum that also struggles and she didnt have the personal health issues you are tolerating.
However, there is hope. Blood pressure that I've had for many years can be remedied by appropriate medication and regular relaxation periods eg when your eldest is in school.
Anxiety is also a serious illness that is, ultimately, curable but any improvement is a bonus. The following thread sets out several means to which I overcame it.
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-how-l-eliminated-it/td-p/183873
The operations and rehabilitation on your leg has been a major hurdle and I would assume that you havent fully recovered physically nor emotionally from this. For that reason I feel there is, once more healing has progressed, much to feel positive about. Easier said than done but we all know the power of being positive.
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/motivation-search-and-rescue-it/td-p/38279
The best friend you can have is yourself.
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/the-best-praise-you-ll-ever-get/td-p/134999
Finally, your son "He has been so horrible towards me lately". You might need to convince yourself that his illnesses restricts his ability to acknowledge what great parents you are. Yes, you need to dig deep but in a few short years life will improve. Maybe ask hubby to mind him while you join a friend for coffee. Join groups of similar people etc.
TonyWK
