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Losses of this year.
Hi Chels26 and warm welcome to Beyond Blue
Life sounds very difficult for you at the moment. Relationship breakups are very hard aren't they?
I remember being so heartbroken over a guy who was absolutely gorgeous. He was someone I thought was perfect. That he wasn't at all like any of the ones who treate me so badly before. How gentle, soft and wonderful. But alas, it was not to be. His previous girlfriend who'd been away travelling returned home and that was it. I was dropped, just like that.
It felt like the earth was going to stand still, that I couldn't breathe. I cried and cried. It was awful.Do you have anyone who can help you grieve? For instance are you seeing a doctor or a health professional, e.g. a psychologist? I've found them to be very helpful during periods of my life like you're experiencing.
Depression is the pits isn't it. But it is manageable. Talking is one of the best things. It is so good you've been able to share your story here. Getting out of bed can be hard when you're low. What I do is make myself a commitment of what I want to achieve for the day. Starting with a shower!! Then breakfast on the deck with the cats while listening to the birds. If I have the energy - do some housework.
All this starts with making a plan for the day and trying to keep it. Writing a journal and keeping note of the good things I've done during the day has helped tremendously.
You've done well to write here Chels! Would like to hear from you again - if and when you want too. No pressure. You're not alone.
I know what you are going through. It’s a real struggle when you think you’ve met “the one” and it just doesn’t work out that way.
Yesterday I wrote him a letter. Wrote absolutely everything that was on my mind. What I thought of him. What I thought I deserved. Everything. Then I burnt it. Gosh it felt good. It was 5 pages of what was going on in my head. I couldn’t stop writing when I started. Give it a go. It may help you too.