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Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums. It's good that you are talking about this and obviously there are a few issues to deal with. So it's time to make and instigate some fresh plans that will relieve some pressure.
Would you consider visiting a counsellor? With a professional you can start to work out if your mistrust is justified and what you can do about it. Hey right now I want you to know that there will be things you can do to feel better, some times it can take just small changes in our thinking and relief and happiness can come our way. I am no doctor but I think a key would be a professional diagnosis and appropriate treatment that doesn't include meds.
For me, I practice not losing energy to something that I cannot control or might never happen. In the moment if I have negative thoughts I practice pulling my self up find a diversion in a positive thought. It helps me to be clear about all the important things in my life, I am not just a partner, I am also...a dad, a professional, a volunteer, a drummer, backyard mechanic etc, the more eggs in the basket the more strength I have when one area is compromised. So what other interests, passions, ambitions do you have, and is this way to meet new people?
Hi Jocky the swagman,
On the weekends, can you organise something different to do with your family? I do realise you don't have a lot of time on a weekend, but maybe a change of scenery and plans might be a good thing for the whole family.
Have you tried talking to your wife about how you are feeling? I do also understand that finding work is difficult as my husband has been unemployed for a couple of years now! Is it possible for you to change employment?
Could your family relocate closer to you or is that just not an option?
Can you form friendships with people in the same boat as you during the week? There must be other people there who do not like the pub scene. Is there a cinema close to where you are staying? Do you like the movies?
I hope you will find ways to stay connected with your daughter.
Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools
Hi Jocky the Swagman,
I too am a member of the CFS. When we moved to the country a couple of years ago I decided it was one way to meet people and also to be able to help out in some way.
Have you asked any of the people from the CFS if they would like to join you in a meal at the pub now and then?
I sometimes invite the members to our place for a meal and we hope to organise some games evenings as well.
Regrading your anger concerns, I too have that problem. I go out and tackle the garden. One day I went and butchered all of the fruit trees. They seem to have recovered okay, so will see if they set any fruit this year!
Does it help you at all to write things down. You can then screw the paper up and chuck it away.
Some people use punching bags to help get out their frustrations.
We had an old car at the CFS station. I took a sledge hammer to that one night. That helped. My arms were so sore the next day though. Ha. Ha.
Hope you manage to find some solutions. A counsellor might be a good idea or use the web chat or phone lines.
Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools