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Lonely and don't know anyone.
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Welcome to the BB forum. You will find a lot of support here.
I don't live in your area, but I have a suggestion that might help you get out and about. I'm guessing that you are retired and have a lot of time on your hands. I had the same problem when I retired, so I have an idea what you are going through.
If that is the case, have you considered doing some volunteer work. Places like Anglicare, Vinnies, the Salvos, and the local hospital are always looking for volunteers like you. In addition there are many community groups looking for people like you to drop in a visit people in your area that are isolated and in need of company. A real win-win if you are mobile.
Here is a link that lists the volunteer jobs in your area. There is a lot to choose from. As a volunteer you can choose how much of your time you are willing to donate.
Please stay in touch and let us know how you are going. Others on this forum will have ideas that might help you get up and about.
That is so nice that you volunteer for Vinnies!
i had them visit me recently when I was mentally unwell and they were so generous
They also gave me some vouchers and supplies to get back on my feet. Just letting you know from someone who received their support- you change lives! Thank you for the work you do!
i'm lonley too so I don't have an answer. I just wanted to say i'm sorry you feel so lonely and are struggling during this time. You are not alone... I find it helps me to have places I can visit and make small talk, like coffee shops (same one every day) - where I've now became a familiar feature and people come say hi. I don't have a lot of friends either.
It can be hard to find people to connect to, and does take a few goes... i'm wishing you luck finding some nice connections in ur area!!!
Hello Bendigo, and can we offer you a warm welcome to the forums.
I too, am over 60 and wonder where all the years have gone, where we try and summarise our life in a small capsule but we can't because how we felt 10 years earlier maybe completely different to the current time, much has changed, whether or not we accept it depends on the person and the situation you're in.
The wonderful job you've done at the hospital as well as at Vinnies maybe on hold for a few weeks but will desperately require your help once again when this lockdown eases off, so it's these 6 weeks and possibly any past time that has brought you to the site.
You have done what you wanted, to talk with other people even though it's not one to one by voice, but we still understand and really appreciate contact with you.
Even though normally you're happy being alone does not take away the fact that now you feel alone and for that, we're really sorry.
Can I suggest you talk with your doctor, either by phone or if they are seeing patients, because they may need to prescribe medication to start with, to help change how you are thinking?
I say this just to balance your way of thinking but would love to hear back from you.
Yes, times are hard, especially for Victorians. I'm 40 years old and in recent times I have felt lonely too. I've been feeling this way pre-covid. I've reached out to this forum also. Loneliness is a horrible, disgusting feeling, I know. I'm a sufferer of depression and anxiety and at times, I can't get out of bed either. My depression has been long-lasting (really felt its impact the last 4.5 years now). Depression for me doesn't seem to be getting any better. I've lost all my friends and support network through no fault of my own (long story), and have no contact with family either. I understand and I hear you.
Do you live by yourself? I have been and with the covid situation, alongside the alienation from friends & support network, I've opened up my home to a flatemate. He's moving in this evening, however, we've been setting up his room, gardening and pottering around in the house on the weekend, and got to know one another, instead of simply move right in straight away.
Perhaps that's one option for you. Try advertising on Gum Tree or Flatemates.com.au - there's a charge to list on this site. Gumtree is free.