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Living with a partner with depression/anxiety/OCD
Hello, and I am truly sorry for the situation this has caused, because I was the person in our marriage that had depression, anxiety and OCD, so I know how she feels and as a result know what you are trying to understand as well as being able to cope with all of this.
As much as may love your girlfriend your priority is to look after yourself first of all, once this happens then you will have the strength to produce ideas to help her.
You can't keep giving and giving until you feel drained, emptied, and exhausted because as much as you love her it becomes tiring, that's why you need to look after yourself.
I do totally know what she has to struggle with and will get back to you.
Hello, what my ex did was know of what I was struggling with, but if she fell down into depression then our two sons would find it most difficult to participate in their daily sporting activities as well as being able to work, cook, solve any problems, (although these aren't necessarily looking after yourself) but enjoy any excitement coming from our sons.
If you are able to put your partner to one side, and I mean this with respect, then look at what you aren't doing but really want to, also means that feeling physically and emotionally drained by your partner has to stop and perhaps separate yourself and do exactly what pleases you.
If you need help to get back doing this then talk with a psychologist or a counsellor that may encourage you to step aside and do what you have always enjoyed.