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Just don't fit in but husband does
Hi Leigh, welcome
I feel very sorry for you which isnt common for me to admit.
Everyone has a right to be themselves within some basic boundaries like not being rude, not being totallt silent or abusive etc.
I think within those boundaries you have every reason to be yourself and that means NOT being like any other person. Your husband needs to accept this. You are not a thing to compete with. You are beautiful as you are! A unique one off indivudual.
People adapt. Extroverted people know if someone is quiet, shy, has limited social abilities. My wife is the same.. but many of my fiends comment "oh, she gorgeous just quiet ...we cant all be loud".
What you can do is try to slowly raise your confidence. Google the following
Topic: the best praise you'll ever get- beyondblue
Topic: inner peace, the glory if being YOU- beyondblue
Topic: accepting yourself, the frog and the scorpion- beyondblue
Topic: being withdrawn to achieving confidence- beyondblue
Topic: confidence- how do you get it?- beyondblue
Topic: low self esteem- beyondblue
Good luck. Post if you want to.
Your social life on this occasion isn't warranted, because you don't want to be highlighted as someone who has not achieved all what she has, her circumstances may well be different and she may have had an opportunity which have been handed to you on a plate.
If you go it will be unbearable for you, and what this means is that it's going to take you several days to overcome this, stand your ground and do exactly what you decide to do. Geoff.