Mum574,
Hi. I hope you do not mind me saying... Happy belated birthday. I am truly sorry that he forgot your birthday. The other thing that I want to mention is that I only have your post about forgetting the birthday, and how he does little around home. I hope then you won't mind if I ask some questions...
Is your husband open about things? ie Do you both talk about things much? Does he tell you what concerns him? Or does he bottle things inside himself? Did you ask him why/how he forgot?
From your post is seems to me like you (at this moment in time) are going in different directions. I have said this in other posts but (in my opinion) relationships are a two-way street, and compromise and communication. It sounds like you are doing all the work within this relationship. Unfortunately.
Could it be that all the negatives you "see" came out when he forgot your birthday?
Now I would have hoped that he would have seen your side of the story if/when you explained this to him. You said that he was "more grumpy at me for being upset".
Please tell me what you are looking for? Are you merely venting? Are you asking where the relationship is heading? How much does he care?
If I were in your shoes.... I would try to have a serious "deep and meaningful" conversation with my partner about how I feel. And the conversation is not to put the other person down. Rather see it as a review of where things are at in relationship, and where to go from here. Where do you want to go from here? And hopefully, your partner will see where you are coming from and take the ride with you. A husband/wife is a team, hopefully traveling in the same direction.
Hope that my response is OK.
Tim
