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Hurtful attitude/passive aggression from a family member
We get this enquiry often here in this forum from those with a mental disorder suffering stigma issues. Such members I usually point towards a survival thread that might help you
beyondnlue topic fortress of survival (also part 2)
but there is another that is a counter attack method that might suit
beyondblue topic wit, the only answer to torment
In that thread the less said the better but what you do say make sure it hits home
In a previous relationship I was ready for my partner to criticise my expenses associated with model airplanes
she said “how much money have you spent on model airplanes in the last 7 years”
”are you proud of that”? She asked
I replied “more proud than spending $35,000 on cigarettes”
She smoked a carton a week.
So that thread spells it out fully.
Your options is using such wit, ignoring (which can create issues), being civil for the first 30 seconds then avoid or breaking off the relationship altogether. The last option is common with us here including this bipolar guy because toxic people have a stronger adverse effect with the likes of me who is ultra sensitive.
If you like you can provide some quotes he makes so I can suggest some come back replies
I have heated run ins with a family member of mine too regularly.
By not reciprocating the passive aggression when responding to this family member is a great start.
If it’s effecting you but you don’t want to mention it, maybe regularly check up on the person to understand things that could be resulting in some sadness or anger that your family member is experiencing. To recognise YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM!
Good Luck 🙂