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how do i handle different beliefs
I have a lot of people who believe in God, so that's great for them,I have no argument against that because that's their belief, but for me it means nothing and I don't want anybody to try and preach to me about God, they are wasting their time, and I'm not interested.
I wouldn't denounce any religion to them as that may upset them,I would just tell her that you're pleased she has found some piece with God, but please I have no desire to find God, and if I ever want to I will come and see you, but please let's talk about something else.
If a relationship only depends on religion then you will have to straight to the point and squash anymore talk about God, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
Tell her that you really appreciated her help and it was that that got you through and not God.
My ex was always a Catholic but now she is a fully fledged one going to church a couple of times a week, and she always tries to push religion onto me, but I say to her no.
Sorry to those who do believe in God. Geoff.
When anyone tries to force their beliefs onto others no matter what the belief is, it can feel very invasive. The word 'force' comes to mind. Your scenario is something I went through years ago. My response was to say; "How would you feel if I tried to convince you God didn't exist? Would you listen? Would you feel uncomfortable because I'm your friend, and don't want to hurt my feelings by asking me to stop? Well that's how I feel."
People don't like feeling helpless when others are hurting. So they give things they think will help. In some cases that's unsolicited religious advice. People basically mean well, but they usually won't stop unless they're asked to. If your friend was hurting, wouldn't you try to give them the name of a really good psych, or some advice on mindfulness?
Having friends is a privilege. I wish I had more. I've learned though, that communicating honestly and tactfully can go a long way. Maybe you could talk to your friend about feeling helpless when you're depressed or anxious. Turn the conversation to them and maybe you'll both get to know each other better.
I wish you well Redgirl...kind thoughts...Dizzy
If any of my friends say that they are about to go to church, I say 'no worries catch up with you later on', but as I say I really don't like them trying to force their beliefs onto me, that's crossing the line, and if they can't accept the fact that I don't believe in religion and stop talking with me, then they are the ones who are missing out, because there are times when we all need a friend to talk to or go out with. Geoff. x
No harm meant for those who believe in religion.
I know exactly where you're coming from girl! I spent more than 2 yrs avoiding everyone, then one day saw a flyer on a notice board and joined a group of like minded women. We're not friends mind you, but it's so nice to converse about anything other than mental health.
You have to make little contact with your ex-usband who is an alcoholic, because when he is drunk anything could come out of his mouth and I'm sure it won't be pleasant.
By all means make contact with your sister in law this could give you back some well needed confidence and another avenue, because your sister and mum may have run out of options and you may feel as talking with them isn't doing much now.
Even though your sister in law (SIL)maybe religious just tell her that all you want is someone to talk to and don't want everything to do with religion.
Are you able to go to a shopping complex and just sit down where a busy supermarket is, someone will come and sit next to you and if like they may start a conversation probably about the weather and then join in, hopefully it could be an old granny who loves a chat, this will enable you to feel comfortable in light chat, and the more often you can do this the better.
Try and invite this lady who wanted to check on you to come back for a coffee, because the more gradual you can do this will slowly build up your confidence. Geoff, x