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How can I help my father?
I'd like to welcome you here and can understand how you feel. Having a parent cut himself off, and seeing him make the same mistake time after time -and suffer when doing it - is a hard thing to watch and feel.
I really wish there was an easy or quick answer however I'm not sure there is. You said you have tried to get him to seek medical help without success and are no longer talking.
Perhaps a mindshift might help. In the past when he has criticized you for whatever reason you have probably reacted as if he is your parent and he is wrong. And as a result there is an argument, something painful enough to make you withdraw.
One very often has a special regard for a parent, not just love, but see them as a special person who should show wisdom and reliability too. Sometimes those expectations are not born out and one ends up seeing them as smaller, as human with faults - often very large ones.
Perhaps now the roles could change and you take over as the one who has wisdom - and forbearance. When his words become accusatory or condemning you not raise to the bait but try to steer matters towards more peaceful ideas. Maybe the music, art and so on you mentioned.
Until there is a relationship where he respects you I'd be surprised if he listened to your suggestions. Even if he still does not at least he might not be so alone.
Look Belleblue, frankly I'm guessing, and you may have gone down this path already. So what do you think?
You are a realistic and caring person and your father, whether he knows it or not, is lucky to have you as a daughter. I can't think of anything more you can do unless he wishes to cooperate and tone down his judgmental ways.
I hope at least by coming here it confirms to you that you ate taking all possible steps and and in no way responsible for any of this. Nagging doubts can creep in no matter what. You have to have boundaries which you do, and you would help him if the opportunity presented itself. That is all that is possible.
Please feel free to continue to talk here as often as you would like