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Hi, my name is Pipsy and I am nearly 64. I've been married nearly 25 years and I'm so fed-up and down in the dumps. Can anyone help? please.
Hello Pipsy,...you have reached out already by posting on here...great start...
I personally would talk to my GP, and ask for a referral to see a clinical psychologist or or counselling psychologist who is a professional in abuse as you have been through..
Again there is also similar people who have been through what you have on here and maybe able to give more advise...
What ever you decide good luck
dear Pipsy, welcome to the site.
Well I'm 60 now, and I hope that I don't say anything which may upset you, because that's certainly not my intention.
There are times when the marriage seems to have run it's course, and by no means am I suggesting this to happen, but when your husband takes delight in criticising you or demeaning you to his parents it doesn't sound to be fair.
It's impossible to 'get over it', it just won't and doesn't happen, it's never that easy, never has been nor never will be in the short term future, especially as you were abused as a child and probably never resolved, so it's a lot to have to carry by yourself.
I'm not sure whether your family is still alive, but I'll leave that up to you whether you want to mention this, I'm sure it has been a terrible weight to carry.
I would love to hear back from you, as I'm sure there is so much you may want to discuss. L Geoff. x
dear Pipsy, sorry about the funny 3 letter reply above.
Can I just say what happened with me, which I have posted on other comments, and appreciate that you may not have read them.
I too was married for 25 years, and and divorced in '02, tried to take my own life in '95, used alcohol as self medicating, but now just a social drinker and have been since ? '03 or '04, my wife said she couldn't help me any more with my depression and hated my drinking, and the latter I can well and truly accept, that's why I only drink socially now, I loved her then and still love her now.
We still talk and see each other now, as I invited her to a small group to celebrate my 60th as well as my twin ( fraternal) and has never had depression nor does he have OCD like I do.
If life was only as simple as a two paragraph statement, but we all know it can't be, because so many anomalies branch out from it. lol
It's great to talk to you, and yes please I will look for your post.
Good luck and take care. L Geoff. x