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Help my family is falling apart
Im new to this but i am in need of help. I seem to have been through so much. Its just one thing after another and i just don't know what to do anymore. The latest thing that has hit me is my son has gone off the rails he is in his 20s with the wrong crowd and living a thugs life. I want to help him but he has shut me out and doesn't want help. Please where do i go? What do i do?
Hi badluckgirl, welcome
As hard as this sounds, with your son, he is an adult. He is responsible for his own behaviour and future.
sonetimes we as individuals and parents need to self preserve, keep looking after ourselves even if as in this case, he is facing jail. Because his direction isn't going to change the more you worry.
Be there for him. But point out to him his destiny is in his own hands.
Take care of yourself. Something's are beyond our control.
Unfortunately i already know that he is an adult and i cant change his decisions whatever they may be.
I am looking after myself.
and thats the thing how can i be there for him if he doesn't even acknowledge me. My husband was killed at work. None of my family get in touch to see how i am (well not since they found out about my son) i feel as though im totally on my own. Most of all i was seeking advice on how i can deal with this.
Ive already spoken to headspace. Its not that easy and it gets harder to explain.6 months ago he moved out of home and in with his fiance... 6 months ago he had everything. ..managers job..car..family... he is 21 he had goals and plans..
Now he has nothing no job..no car..and he doesn't care about the family. We have always been so close..even more since the accident. .. he doesn't want anything to do with me his brother rarely contacts his sister.
Me i can't talk to his brother. His sister doesn't want to get involved.
This is the thing... i know i cant help him if he doesn't want help... but how can i be there for him if he doesn't want to know. People say just be there this is what i cant understand how can i if he wont let me? He is my son i dont condone what he is doing (drugs) i hate it! But i cant just forget him
Ok i will contact them thankyou you have at least given me something to focus on.
Headspace were ok they suggest i contact my gp so i can talk to someone (which is what i asked for..which i had already done)
Offered to get me an appointment with councilor if gp couldnt. But i just needed to talk to someone now not in 3 weeks. ..
I understand the feeling of waiting 3 weeks when you want to see someone now. I remember when I had acute anxiety.
Venessa has has made a good point in calling Youth Services. At least you may be able to speak to a youth worker. The outreach service is there to help.