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Hello - I'm at my wit's end
Hello, I am completely and utterly overwhelmed by life right now. I have two autistic and ADHD kids who are home 24/7 as they cannot attend childcare / school for many reasons. My husband has severe depression, he's also autistic and ADHD. I love them all! But I am like the personal assistant, mum, wife etc. I am over it!
I can't talk to anyone because every single person says 'make your kids go to school' etc. I've had childcare providers tell me they can't help me. I've had childcare providers tell me it's in my head and question my kids diagnosis (please see my paediatrician GRRRR). It's sooooooooo frustrating.
We need help. My husband is on the edge, I can see it, hear it, feel it. I'm worried. My kids are beautiful but hard work. So hard.
I'm sorry for venting. But, I just feel trapped.
I share your frustration as the personal assistant, mum, wife etc. for my family.
I often imagine travelling back in time before having kids, before my post-natal depression, before my ocd, before my noise-anxiety, before a life of endless household chores everyday. Wouldn't it be lovely to be able to enjoy the weekend again instead of having to watch the clock to allow time for multiple loads of laundry etc. It's like living under the stop-watch everyday and I want to get out!
For me, talking to others doesn't help because I know I will still be in the same situation regardless. So I've tried to adopt the mindset of our grandmother's generation - just get on with things and accept the responsibility is just the way it is. Maybe we just need to "ride it out". It's a phase in life and the bad feelings will pass one day.