hello Mum, firstly can I say how sorry I am for you, but maybe I can say what happened with me, my wife did the same and divorced me and neither son didn't want anything to do with my ex or myself, so the whole situation was very disturbing, the house that we had rebuilt and always thought we would be living there forever had to be sold, so it was pretty traumatic for them, because they loved the house and the 8 acres it was on.
It took me a great deal of time trying to contact them without any luck, but I had to persevere and eventually I got in contact with them, the conversation was quick and short and not showing any amount of love towards me, but I kept trying and eventually found out where they were living and went down to see them.
Fortunately they were living with some of their mates who greeted me at the door and let me in, that's when everything changed, I had them back, and now our r/ship couldn't be any stronger.
For whatever reason you left your husband was your decision, and maybe your sons don't know the full story, and your husband is only going to exaggerate why it happened, never the less this shouldn't stop you from trying to contact them, either when they are apart or both together, and if you want them back then don't give up, it may take a while, never the less keep trying. Geoff.
