hello Feelinghopeless, I'm sorry that this has happened to you, so firstly can I ask what you have found out about your husband have just happened or were they kept secrete from his past, but he has never got rid of the evidence.
What seems to be going on is that anxiety has started to take over your life, it's controlling you, and may have begun from what you have just found out.
Your obsession about his trust is very important here and unless it's settled then it will only get worse, creating many other problems, ones which you may not have experienced before, and that's what we don't want to happen.
The only way to find out is to ask him, and as you're been married for 11 years you should know by his reaction whether he's telling you the truth or not, maybe he might blush or not look at you, or blink his eyes out of fear, or start an argument.
No matter what the outcome is I would like you to visit your doctor where they may suggest you to take medication and then refer you to a psychologist using the mental health plan, where you are entitled to 10 free visits.
Try and get the help you need and you need to speak to your husband, there will never be a good time, so any time is the best time. Geoff.
