Dear MsCJ~
I will join Tony in welcoming you here. (He has some pretty good ideas in those links)
Your life sounds very stretched at the moment and has been for a long time. It sounds as if you did a good thing for your mental well being to separate from your husband. That sort of abusive behavior is terribly destructive and leaves a long shadow.
It looks like you are one of those people that normally puts others first, both in your job and your family. This is all very well but when it harms you then you really do need to rethink and try to look after yourself, you are important and entitled.
If your job is lousy and there is an iron-clad firm offer of another then just quit and apologies afterwards. You would not be the first person to walk out of poor employment .
With your children, your eldest son helped you before and I would image would want to keep doing so, perhaps to help you find better employment, perhaps to help find accommodation that is less isolated.
Rural areas do have their downsides with isolation and he expenses of travel. They often do have strengths too with a stronger sense of community, everything for agricultural shows to church functions to catering for community organizations. I live in such an area.
While you offspring may come to you with their problems it is probably beneficial to them to see everyone has hassles and they can play a role in helping too.
Croix
