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Feeling incredibly lonely

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Hey there. I'm Shane. I've gone through a pretty big break-up and although we're working things out, we're keeping our distance so as to not rush things. During the break up, my 'friends' (I use that term pretty loosely due to their words and actions) have essentially abandoned me. I think it's part to me somewhat maturing quite a bit over the past 6 months and their stagnant lives, but also their ragging on my ex (whom I still love to Gallifrey and back) even though I asked them not to didn't help the friendship.

My best mate of almost 20 years all of sudden removed me from his life. I think it has something to do with my atheistic world view and his further movement into the Jehovah Witness church, which I never had an issue with (his beliefs) and I never questioned them, however I think he may have felt 'threatened' by things I've said in passing to others in conversation/debate. The loss of his friendship struck quite a blow, but I've come to accept that it's his life and his choice to not be in my life anymore.

Aside from those people, I don't really have any other friends. I have a couple fellas I play Xbox Live with occasionally but those times are few and far between. I guess being a Sunday night in a dead-end town has me feeling lost. So I'm just wondering if anyone would like to chat at all? I could add you on facebook or even if you're a gamer (Xbox One and PC here), we could game together. I guess I'm saying I'm looking for a friend and with the power of the internet at my fingertips, things could be easy. I'm an introvert, however I do like to explore new places when given the opportunity. I'm a big Doctor Who fan (New Who only; haven't had a chance to watch the older stuff), I love new music, I enjoy a good comedy and my top 3 favourite tv shows are 'It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia', 'The Office (US)' and 'Doctor Who'. I'm a 26 year old lonely fella looking to keep my mind from turning into the beehive that my anxiety turns it into. Men or women, it doesn't matter. Just looking for friendship 🙂

(PS, I apologise if this is the wrong place to post this. I sort of jumped straight into the first forum that had 'loneliness' in the description.)

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Hi Shane, 

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Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi ShaneB91,

Welcome to the forums!

Sorry you haven't gotten a reply just yet! Hopefully you've been able to check out some of the links that Sophie M sent and have a browse through. This is a big space here so it can be a little overwhelming to get used to.

Given that we can't meet up on Facebook or game with you, how would you like to use the forums?

Would you prefer to just chat in general or try and talk more about the loneliness?

I'll leave that one up to you! Either or is fine by us. I'm not sure how much you and I could click given that I'm not much of a gamer but I am a huge fan of the Office! I will incorporate 'that's what she said' in way too many conversations!

Hope you enjoy being here:)

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Hi Shane,

I also just sort of jumped into the first forum with loneliness in the description. For me i think its because i have just realised that i really can't openly talk to my partner and that that won't change anytime soon.

I do have a couple of close friends, though not many friends in general. At the moment i feel alone because any attempts to bring them in have been blown off. I did read thst no information fo contact can be shared but i am happy to chat in a forum also!