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Family issues/brother’s GF
The introduction of an inlaw or GF/BF to a family can result in conflict due to various reasons and I've experienced that myself with my first eifes family. I got engaged to the youngest of 5 siblings and upset two GF's of brothers because, they wanted to be engaged first. Yes, jealousy is far underrated as its never admitted so you rarely identify that as a reason.
What is important for you currently is to salvage some sort of level of communication with your brother. This can be commenced a number of ways
- Wait, let time heal until you are no longer a topic they will be discussing say 3 months
- A phone call/FB message to your brother on his birthday. Note: not face to face as his GF likely will be present
- Remember: you owe her nothing but politeness. Being cordial leads to less anxiety at say, family gatherings. Under the circumstances it is reasonable and advisable to keep your distance. It's an art to tread that line but it's much better to do so.
- What does time do? It changes many things, people mature, they can listen to others and might have regrets, she could be influenced by your brother over time.
You will need time to adjust to this change in the family dynamic. This time thing is needed to care for yourself. I've listed a few threads you can google that will help you with this direction. You only need to read the first post of each-
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Hello Shanna, your brother is only doing this to support his gratification with his GF because if he doesn't agree with what she says then all of this will be put on hold.
He may not necessarily agree with what she says but he's doing so to build up points with her, so if you can look at it this way then it's easier to ignore her/his comments.
Remember there could be a chance he finds someone else in the future that wants to help you and then so will your brother.
As Tony has said try and communicate with your brother when he is alone and tell him how disappointed you are feeling.