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dont know what to do next
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I have been through this myself (just recently) it’s almost an identical situation.
Jess mentioned boundaries (thank you Jess - your beautiful insights are truly inspirational and have helped me tremendously!) these are so important because he is getting you still but you are not getting what you want.
I found speaking to GP, psychologist, this community and writing my feelings down a good way to start being a peace with my new normal.
I will not lie - there were tears, anxiety etc but I’m through the worst of it (there was a number of other issues also).
please take care of you, as the old saying goes - you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Happy to chat and listen to you when you’re ready
sending you much kindness today
Shazzy, I am in a very similar situation to you at the moment and I won’t lie, I’m really struggling. We were being friendly which made me hurt less but it also meant that I held onto some hope of getting back together which is only damaging in the end. We’re not currently talking and it’s been so difficult to go cold turkey. However, it’s helped me in some ways. As horrible as it feels, you need to realise that there’s nothing you can do to change his mind right now. I tried everything and in the end, he needs time to mature and grow and hopefully one day he’ll come back, but I have to find peace in the fact that I have no say in whether that happens or not.
I’m not sure if that made sense, I’m still trying to figure it all out for myself.
You’re most welcome shazzy.
I still don’t want mine to end either. I know this all too well. I still hope that he has the light bulb moment and realises this. I am thinking of you and sending much kindness and a big hug.